family/friends/homelife

family

PROBLEM:
So many distractions lure our attention from our families to other things; they weaken the bonds that otherwise tie together those naturally bonded by birth, by place and ancestry.

PROPOSALS:
Spend 10 more minutes today than you did yesterday, actively protecting your family from “junk” distractions: Turn off unattended televisions or radios in the house; don’t focus on “the next thing to run to” but rather sit or stand still and simply be present with your mate, child, other relative(s) or pet(s). Sit down and eat ten more meals together, as a family, this week or month than you did last. Visit ten more places together, as a family, this year than you did last—a city you’ve never visited, a national park, museum, concert, sports event…

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PROBLEM:
We who grew up in post-war affluence, largely with (grand-)parents who’d endured the Great Depression and world war, typically assumed that providing our (grand-)children with as many material goods as possible was a worthy goal. And, many of us reared our (grand-) children to distrust people they did not know, out of fear of kidnappings or abuse. Now, we see the results of such values and pedagogy: We have young people who often lapse into narcissistic isolation, who aren’t open to engaging with people they don’t know.

PROPOSALS:
Spend 10 more hours this month than last, taking your (grand-)children outside their Selves, beyond their usual “turf:” Take them to visit an elderly relative at a nursing home, ladle out soup at a homeless shelter, rake the yard of an ailing neighbor—but most important of all, guide them into conversations with some of the people they so serve.

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PROBLEM:
More and more very young children are being negatively influenced by electronic media, which literally affects the structure of their brain’s development, as well as social skills.

PROPOSALS:
Spend 10 more minutes today than you did yesterday, reading aloud to children younger than age 10. Think 10 seconds longer than you otherwise would, before handing an iPad, laptop, television remote or even cell phone to children under at the age of five: Think about an alternative to an “electronic babysitter:” Going for a walk? Helping to cook a meal? Engaging your young (grand-)child in handcrafts, gardening, pet care or the like? Accompany your child outdoors—on a bike ride, swimming, horseback riding, working…

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PROBLEM:
For many young people, material things hold more value than emotional or spiritual experiences. Rather than relate to people or even processes, they feel safest with things.

PROPOSALS:
Spend 10 more minutes than you otherwise would, before selecting a birthday, holiday or other present for the young people in your life. Instead of giving a present you bought, consider for what experience-based “gift” you could create a coupon for, to give inside a self-made card: a boat ride on or raft trip down a local river, a weekend home stay on a farm or Native American reservation, tandem parachuting somewhere in your region, etc.

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PROBLEM:
As adults have withdrawn in vast numbers from civic engagement over the past 35 years, our youth, too, have withdrawn from community activities—as evidenced, for example, on the shrinking number of sports and scouting clubs, Sunday-school rosters, etc.

PROPOSALS:
Find 10 other parents in your area willing to support a ten-week project involving local families but ultimately for presenting to the wider community—putting on a neighborhood play with weekly rehearsals for ten weeks; organizing a recycling drive in your town or a garbage pickup sweep in a local park or along a river; interviewing senior citizens for a digital and/or printed record of local history of whatever kinds; registering new voters…

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